🧩 QUIZ🧩

Answer each question honestly and keep track of your answers.

SECTION 1: Communication & Understanding

1. How often do small disagreements turn into bigger arguments?
A) Rarely — we resolve things quickly
B) Sometimes — depends on the topic
C) Often — minor things spiral fast
D) Almost always — we can’t seem to stay calm

2. When you talk about your feelings, does your partner make an effort to understand?
A) Always — they really try
B) Occasionally, but not deeply
C) Rarely — they get defensive
D) Never — I’ve stopped trying

3. How would you describe the tone of your daily conversations?
A) Warm and supportive
B) Neutral or routine
C) Distant or sarcastic
D) Cold or critical

4. Do you feel heard and validated when expressing concerns?
A) Yes, we listen to each other
B) Sometimes
C) Usually not
D) No, we both shut down

SECTION 2: Emotional & Physical Connection

5. How emotionally close do you feel to your spouse right now?
A) Very close — we’re best friends
B) Somewhat close — but drifting
C) Distant — there’s a wall
D) Disconnected — it feels like living with a stranger

6. How affectionate is your relationship lately?
A) Still warm and loving
B) A bit routine
C) Awkward or minimal
D) Practically nonexistent

7. When you think about your spouse, what emotion comes up first?
A) Comfort and appreciation
B) Neutrality
C) Frustration or irritation
D) Sadness or fatigue

8. Do you still enjoy doing small things together (errands, shows, dinner)?
A) Yes — we still have fun
B) Occasionally
C) Rarely
D) Not at all

SECTION 3: Conflict & Resentment

9. How do you both handle conflict after it happens?
A) We talk it out calmly
B) We ignore it until the next fight
C) It lingers — we never move past it
D) We use silence or distance as punishment

10. Has name-calling, sarcasm, or emotional withdrawal become common?
A) Not really
B) Occasionally
C) Often
D) Constantly

11. Do you find yourself replaying arguments in your head?
A) Hardly ever
B) Sometimes
C) Often
D) Almost every day

SECTION 4: Trust, Security & Shared Goals

12. How secure do you feel in your partner’s love and commitment?
A) Very secure
B) Mostly, though doubts creep in
C) Unsure — it feels unstable
D) Insecure — I question everything

13. Have your shared goals (finances, family, future) stayed aligned?
A) Completely aligned
B) Somewhat
C) Not really
D) Totally misaligned

14. Have you or your partner ever brought up counselling before?
A) No — things are good
B) Once or twice, casually
C) Yes — but never followed through
D) Yes — and I think it’s overdue

🧾 RESULTS

Mostly A’s – “Healthy, But Keep Nurturing It”
Your marriage seems grounded and communicative. You likely share values, respect, and humor — the essential ingredients of lasting connection. Keep checking in emotionally. Even healthy marriages benefit from preventive counselling to strengthen the bond before challenges grow.

Mostly B’s – “Early Warning Signs”
You might be drifting into patterns of emotional distance or miscommunication. These small cracks can widen if ignored. Try setting aside time for deeper conversations — not about chores, but about feelings and goals. Counselling at this stage can help you both realign before resentment builds.

Mostly C’s – “Growing Distance”
Your answers suggest that disconnection is already shaping your relationship. Conflicts may go unresolved, and affection feels forced. Counselling can help you understand each other’s emotional languages and rebuild the empathy that may have eroded over time.

Mostly D’s – “Critical Stage: Seek Support Soon”
You may be emotionally checked out or overwhelmed by tension. This doesn’t mean your marriage is doomed — but it does mean it’s calling for immediate attention. Counselling can offer clarity, whether that leads to healing or hard choices. It’s about rediscovering your voice and being heard again.

đź’¬ What These Patterns Reveal

It’s easy to mistake silence for peace. Many couples stop fighting, thinking that’s a sign things are “fine,” when it’s actually emotional detachment. Others argue constantly because it’s the only way they still feel heard. Both extremes are symptoms of disconnect.

Here’s the truth:
Couples don’t fall apart overnight. They drift apart in small, quiet ways — skipped conversations, unspoken frustrations, unmet needs. Over time, love becomes logistics, and affection becomes autopilot.

Recognizing these signs early can make all the difference.

🧭 What Counselling Actually Does

Counselling isn’t about deciding who’s right or wrong. It’s about creating a neutral space to untangle the emotional knots that everyday life tightens. A good therapist helps couples:

  • Rebuild communication tools that have eroded over time
  • Identify emotional triggers and defensive patterns
  • Practice empathy and active listening
  • Redefine shared goals and expectations

Sometimes, just being able to speak without interruption — and to be heard — can restart the healing process.

đź’ˇ When to Consider Counselling

If any of these sound familiar, it might be time:

  • Conversations feel like walking on eggshells
  • You no longer feel emotionally safe or connected
  • Conflicts never really resolve
  • You’ve started imagining life apart more than together
  • One or both of you feel unseen, lonely, or unloved

Counselling doesn’t always mean crisis. Many couples use it proactively, like emotional maintenance. The earlier you go, the easier it is to fix what’s broken — and to rediscover what brought you together in the first place.

❤️ Final Thoughts

No marriage is perfect. Love doesn’t fade because you stopped caring; it fades when you stop connecting. Every couple faces periods of confusion, distance, or exhaustion. What defines your relationship isn’t whether you struggle — it’s how you respond when you do.

If your answers leaned toward disconnection or frustration, take that as an invitation, not a verdict. Counselling isn’t about saving a “failing” marriage — it’s about giving both partners a chance to feel seen, heard, and understood again.

Because sometimes, the healthiest thing two people can do for each other isn’t pretending everything’s fine — it’s choosing to fix what isn’t, together.

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